I would assume you dispose of the parts that frequently touched your bodily fluids and list the “frame” and where to purchase replacement parts in the eBay listing. Somebody out there wants a sex doll and only has $500. Or contact the manufacturer.

Also like I’ve been with hubs for years even before making it legally binding and at a certain point 90% of your communication / negotiation is nonverbal with a 10% verbal clarification for when it’s insufficient. Like we’ll mutually get pushy / use the other if we’re horny enough just because we’ve been together long enough that we recognize that sometimes the other person just really needs it at that time to feel loved or they need physical release or they’re just too damn horny even if you’re not feeling it right that second. (Mutually enjoyable experiences are very possible but usually take a few days of planning, especially to sync up our refractory periods to increase the chance of both orgasming in the sweet spot between slowly and quickly enough, more if we’re planning on incorporating an by specific kinks).

There’s still space to say no if you’re really just sick / hurt / tired / overstimulated but at this point the default setting for both of us is “yeah go ahead just use lube” / understanding that it’s on the initiator to put in the effort to receive an adequate physiological response. And you accidentally overstep sometimes but it’s pretty minor and non traumatic when it’s rare and you’re both able to look at it from the perspective of an honest mistake. Sometimes your partner steps on your toes or runs into you around a corner too and it’s not a Problem unless you’re in a shitty relationship with an ongoing unidirectional lack of effort towards preventing hurtful events.

I think this is what a lot of older couples are describing who are in what would otherwise be considered a healthy and loving relationship by modern standards but where (usually the woman) states that she considers satisfying her husband’s appetites to be an obligation of their marriage. I take issue with it being unidirectional (historical perspectives on women’s sex drive is a whole other convo) and think they’re lacking the emotional intelligence / language to describe the level of nonverbal communication they’re actually doing, but I think what they’re actually describing is just that they’ve been together so damn long that that communication has become largely nonverbal and following loose but long-standing emotional / relationship contracts. That lack of context makes for shitty advice because you can’t just start a relationship there, that’s a negotiation that doesn’t really get settled until years or sometimes even decades in (also the thing about bidirectionality and gender equality).

TLDR; after enough years and in a communicative enough relationship you don’t need verbal / explicit y/n as frequently.

Loving the diagram. Keep up the good educational work.

My only critique is that the pebbling (gift) row has the giving vs receiving columns swapped compared to the rest of the table. The best way to ask is likely something to the effect of “I’m such a trinket / knickknack person. I love little stuff like stickers / keychains / little figurines as gifts!” (or whatever your thing is).

You probably do relate to all five love languages to some extent. Most people do. But for most people 1–2 tend to matter more than the others over time.

Figuring out which ones those are can actually be pretty useful.

• It helps you understand yourself better (why certain things make you feel especially cared for).
• It helps you communicate more clearly instead of expecting people to just pick up on it.

You can get a sense of this by:

• Thinking about past relationships and noticing what made you feel most valued.
• Or using quiz-style tools as a starting point to spot patterns.

Once you’re aware of the ones that tend to matter most to you, it’s usually easier to express your needs and understand how other people show care too.

Oh it’s a good one. Like I might use that. Like damn. Say “grow up” but utterly roast the person while you do it!

right like at least she put in the actual conscious effort to say something shocking

it’s the only social media I have that still has my real name attached. I use it to keep in contact with old coworkers, keep and host my resume, and I like their daily games. It also makes it easier to spitefully apply to other jobs at 2am but then those jobs actually call me and I realize I don’t want to have to learn 30 new people’s names and a new set of nightly charting requirements all over again. Doesn’t mean I don’t threaten my boss occasionally anyway.

Fun fact from a psych nurse: you can usually estimate how many years a person has spent abusing substances by how many years behind they seem in their emotional development. A 30y/o who still acts 20ish has probably spent ~10 years using. It’s not necessarily contiguous, they might have started at fifteen, used for 3, got sober for two, used for 7 more then been sober for the last 3, but they’ve probably spent about ten years using in total. Abusing substances lets people avoid the psychological crises they would normally need to confront to grow as a person. When they stop using they don’t get to skip ahead, they have to pick up maturing from where they left off. It can also happen with non-substance behavioral addictions (like gambling) but it has to be real bad.

The older I get the more I lose faith that the concept will ever be used to actually benefit creators.

Honestly both chihuahuas and pugs should also be banned. It’s not their faults we bred them to be sick but we should very much like, stop. At least get all the ones that currently exist fixed start fining people for having unfixed ones. The phenotypes that cause difficulty breathing are measurable (literally in head length / width ratios) and if anti-pitbull peeps can decide on a similarly objective metric there’s no reason they can’t be added in. The most common ones I hear are mouth shape / bite strength and prey drive / bite tenacity (resistance to letting go), and I must admit that I question the logic of making a terrier that big (there’s a reason large domestic cat breeds prioritize docility / “doglike” behavior, and a terrier is literally a dog bred to do a cat’s job). If they can decide on an objective way to measure those things people can be fined for having one that’s not fixed and there’s plenty of nosy people out there to get it done. They weren’t inbreeding themselves by choice to begin with either so it’s not like we’re fundamentally removing some choice they had by stopping people from continuing to.

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CVSs and Walmarts usually have a free BP check station if OP lives in that part of the world. I second this by the way. Pork is often prepared with a lot of sodium.

Me: “I can’t have caught the family autism gene; my language skills are too good.”

Older me: “so apparently hyperlexia is just another autism presentation…”

Nah I just solve it for the most part. Sometimes if I really need to stretch my brain I switch which side is the “white.”

People tell me I’m hilarious all. the. time. Wish I was actually that happy.

Rubik’s cube. It’s an algorithm you can memorize over the course of about a week at which point it’s mostly muscle memory but it holds attention a little better than a fidget spinner.

People act like it’s easy to get into and conceptualize fedi. I don’t have a problem personally but I have a very rare level of IT comfort for my field and it leaves me feeling very lonely in spaces like this. I even had to take a tech competency credit for my degree (I tested out of it because it was basically a checkbox that asked if I knew how to type but-)

pppsssst: that’s why your body can’t tell the difference!

Now I wanna make an art series of each logo pasted onto the back end of a cat generated by each of their generative image models.