I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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  • Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto2meirl4meirl@lemmy.world2meirl4meirl
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    I feel like there’s some statistical fuckery going on here. I feel like in a lot of super religious communities 2 is a lot, maybe 3 depending on how many youth pastors talked you into a blowie when you were 14. Versus in a lot of more liberal communities premarital sex and divorces are a lot more common. And those communities reproduce like fucking rabbits vs other communities are out here fucking a lot but only reproducing responsibly.

    I’ve also wondered if a lot of the highly religious women I grew up with finding sex unpleasant or a chore is mostly just due to the sex being bad. If they won’t even tell you what a clitoris is, the men are literally taught that they’re owed it and they don’t need to bother making it pleasant, and then add in that (EDIT: LATE) masturbation in women is associated with inability to orgasm as an adult… best case scenario most of the experience is just one long chafing sensation. No wonder all the women I grew up with mostly just found the whole thing gross!

    edit: lol my phone cut out the word late before masturbation and that completely changes the meaning of that sentence. What I meant to say is that studies show that if women don’t masturbate when they’re young they’re at much higher risk for anorgasmia later in life.


  • I’m actually feeling ok for just this one last night. I had a patient get more physically ill than they really should be on a psych unit but not so much I completely couldn’t handle it workout the charge nurse making all the phone calls. The patient was actually super grateful the whole time and their condition improved a lot which was a nice change of pace. Dayshift was pissed but not at me, and there’s just something deeply satisfying about knowing the hospitalist is about to get verbally fisted for not admitting your patient to medical (as they should, there was a lot more luck involved in my success than is generally advisable in a hospital setting). I’m really, really good at holding a crisis together until sunrise, but at my last job they forgot how good I was to the extent that they stopped realizing it was me putting all the fires out, and eventually they forgot the fires even existed. It’s only been six months so we’ll see but so far but them telling me the hospitalist boutta find out about our unit manager is… nice. It’s just nice.


  • Honestly I loved anime growing up but I went on a date with a guy in college who spent the entire date talking about anime in a manner that communicated his big tit fetish on the first date. Like. I would have loved talking about Inuyasha or fma among a few others I remembered really enjoying. But nope. Anime tiddies. So when I read this I’m like… Are you sure it was the anime dude or was it maybe actually something tangentially related to the anime?

    Otoh if it really truly was the anime anon dodged a bullet anyway.









  • I remember reading a paper on phage therapy ages ago. Iirc the implementation difficulty was that you have to culture the bacteria from the patient then use that culture to breed the phages. Culture & Sensitivity testing alone is already usually a 24h+ process and even a tricky sample collection process; at least when I was a phlebotomist 10 years ago it was the most complicated process I was qualified to perform.

    On the other hand phage therapy is great because you don’t really have resistance issues and they’re not going to be harmful to the person. Viruses are extremely host specific compared to bacteria so if they feed on a certain type of bacteria they’re unlikely to be or are even incapable of hurting a human. Vancomycin on the other hand requires regular peak and trough testing to make sure the person is getting enough to kill bacteria but not enough to kill the person.

    The issue being that in addition to the culture they then have to breed the phages with a sample of the bacteria collected from the patient. You could maybe develop a “library” of phages to try but I feel like you’d need to keep getting population samples because they’re that host specific. I’m also not sure how long breeding the phages would take vs how long it takes to test antibiotic sensitivity.




  • I offered to help anyone on Facebook migrate with me to mastodon who wanted to. These are people I’ve known across three towns, five different jobs, and 3 schools between highschool, college, and university. I’ve gotten and given leads and references for jobs from and to so many of them, and hope to in the future. That’s the only reason I even still have Facebook. I’m about to completely call it quits and wipe everything off the account and just leave a pinned post on my profile with a link to a mastodon profile with my real name.

    I put out the first version of that post while I’m getting my data fully packed up. Not a single response. Not even a like. I mentioned it on a post by an LGBT content creator I’ve kept up with since I worked with her ages ago. She’s been building up a portfolio of reviews of everything from beauty products to sex toys and has actually gotten some pretty interesting brand deals lately. She’d never even heard of mastodon.

    These big social media sites are so ingrained in people’s lives in so many different ways. Ultimately you’re right but every time I see a comment like this it gives…


  • As others have stated, you’re still going to have to define dead, and you’re going to have to define the question of what happens. I suspect you may not actually have any specifications for either and are just having fun thinking up and about random shit (that’s not a dig; I share this hobby).

    But for the sake of further discussion, let’s add a few more specific (but non-limiting) questions just to help the discussion along.

    I’m going to exclude cases where they’re already deeply buried or cremated because the obvious answer is “stay there” with the exception of a purely magic related situation where their body just spontaneously recorporeates somewhere? What would be the social consequences to that, how would people react, and what would happen to any property they left behind? This actually raises a lot of other questions related to the social dynamics such as:

    • how would the people immediately around them react.
    • what proof would people need to believe it?
    • are they still on the hook for their student and medical debt
    • would it likely start a new religion and how would the existing religions feel about it from most to least happy?

    There’s also some physical questions such as how much skin, muscle, brain, and other organ breakdown would have occurred and which part would have the most damage.

    There’s questions about whether or not they’re likely to have experienced something spiritual (including what we DO know about near-death experiences like the commonality of a peaceful feeling or spiritual experiences.

    I gave no great answers to any of these and additionally encourage others to ask similar hypothetical details to ask about.



  • Yeah. I know my audience. I’ve got a couple of innate qualities that kind of person listens to (although I actually got rid of the couple you’re probably thinking of) and when you phrase it as humility and gratitude sometimes you can activate that little shred of goodness they learned in Sunday School at eight years old.


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    I remember one time I’d been doing yard work and had my hair wrapped up to keep dirt and some sweat out of it. I got in the car and went off to my (now) ex’s house. The road ran past that country ass courthouse in the northern part of the county and I got pulled over just in front of it after going through a stoplight that I’d been stopped at so I couldn’t possibly have been speeding. I was like 20 with the life experience of a fundie kid who was discouraged from leaving the house until 18 and stupid as FUCK and for some stupid fucking reason thought it would be cute and / or funny to lean out the drivers window and yell “what could I possibly have done???” The officer literally started stuttering and apologizing and told me “you just went around the corner a little too fast sorry maam drive safe” and got back in his car and sped off. I was so confused. Later it occurred to me that he suddenly realized I was white (I was also really cute to the extent that I’m kind of enjoying the reduction in attention now I’ve gotten older).

    When I tell this story to other white people I say that I don’t think I should’ve gotten my ass beat and honestly I probably shouldn’t have gotten pulled over. But I was also being a little bit of a 20 year old little shit. And the moral of the story is that I think everybody should have the right to be a 20 year old li’l shit (just a little, obvs. There’s limits). There are so many times in my life that I have just gotten through by sheer luck because someone gave me the benefit of the doubt. Somebody looked at me and saw a dumb kid fucking up and said,“look, that was kinda shitty of you, here’s how you’re supposed to handle that.” It’s literally saved my life multiple times over. I got my ass beat by the cops during a mental health crisis where somebody who wasn’t some cute little white chick would’ve just got shot. I would not be living the life I’m living now if people hadn’t been so kind to me (or at least gone easier on me than they might’ve otherwise).

    And honestly I just think everybody deserves the benefit of the doubt at least most of the time. And it’s not being ungrateful for what I have to say that (because that’s usually how this conversation comes up). In fact, I think a lot of people are really ungrateful for how many times in their lives that someone looked at them and saw someone who needed help when something as small as a darker shade of skin could’ve meant they saw someone malicious.

    Anyway that’s my soapbox.


  • One of the few advantages to my chosen field is that my experience level in my specialty means I’m in demand enough that recruiters will just message me on places like linkedin and indeed so I’ve started putting my status as open to work and just constantly neg them and their job listings like “you listed a salary but it’s a really wide range what does that look like for ten years of experience” then when they give a shitty response or I just run out of questions to neg with I block them. a) it’s super fun and b) this is my community service to help new grads. Giving back to the community and all.