Been with this guy for 3 years now, I have been making plans in my head for when we are able to move in together, while unfortunately we were in a long distance relationship we still had a lot in common and were able to enjoy our time online together playing videogames and watching movies with the occasional visit once every 4 months or so for a week.

Such a pretty relationship, I feel, like I’m enjoying his company throughout my days of studying and university. But anyways, he feels like he doesn’t want to try to make our relationship workout anymore, so basically breaking up with me. I told him before I let him finish, that I’m gonna be a bit stubborn and still go ahead with my visit in 10 days to go talk to him in person to actually do this. He sighed, and said that he owes me that atleast. This is the 3rd time he’s trying to break up with me, and last time he promised that he’d wait for me and that he won’t break up with me again and that I’d be the one to do so. Just my trust in him is shattered after this.

I am just not sure which way to take this, try to continue with the visit and maybe still stay together or just decide not to go and cut him off from being friends. I’m not sure, part of me wants to still go and do agree we need to break up and just leave the relationship without a sour taste in the mouth, and maybe in the future be friends again.

Edit: Feeling better bout the break up now, I do know I’m not getting back together with them and probably not gonna talk to them for a very long time. I’ve reached out and made a new friend and I’ll keep on trying to find new ones to help with the being lonely part. Looking forwards to it

  • Tedrow@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    4 months ago

    Hey man, I’m sorry you’re going through this. That being said, you need to let him go. It’s not worth staying in a relationship if the other person wants out. It isn’t healthy for either of you.

    • Adori@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      2·
      4 months ago

      Yeaaahh, I thought I was just tryna do it properly by doing it in person xD

      • Tedrow@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        4 months ago

        If you feel like that will give you more closure on the relationship, then go for it. Don’t let meeting up influence you to try to keep the relationship going longer though. He’s already wanted to end this multiple times and you are hurting yourself by keeping it going at this point.

        I wish you the best of luck.

        • Adori@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          1·
          4 months ago

          It really odd, i feel like a bit that this break is just temporary and that we’ll get back together, like so much history and friends groups just all gone in a moment. Its rough