• trainden@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      81·
      6 months ago

      I married my partner for many reasons, financial, wanting to raise a child together, wanting to share my life with them…

      • Captain Poofter@lemmy.worldEnglish
        42·
        6 months ago

        None of those reasons require marriage, so it’s not a satisfying reason. I want to know why MARRIAGE, specifically? Just checking it off a bucket list perhaps?

        • Wereduck@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          21·
          6 months ago

          It seems to me that all of the reasons they provides are all reasons to get married. Especially raising a child, given the privileges that are afforded to married parents in a lot of places (especially in the case of adoption, or IVF using a stranger’s genetic material). Something doesn’t have to require marriage for the benefits of it to outweigh the cons for a specific situation.

          The question seems to me to be kind of confusing. What alternative are you comparing it to? Some sort of local structure like domestic partnership?

          • Captain Poofter@lemmy.worldEnglish
            21·
            6 months ago

            The post I’m replying to was acting as if they had some new wisdom from being polyamorous and their perspective on marriage. But it sounds like they’re just using it as a business move which is something a lot of non polyamorous people do as well, and nothing new. I wasn’t asking what reasons could possibly exist to get married outside of romance or whatever you’re talking about, I was asking SPECIFICALLY THEM why they bothered, with their “unique” perspective on relationships. But it seems the only actual reason they have is taxes, despite their diatribe.

    • Bahnd Rollard@lemmy.world
      61·
      6 months ago

      Taxes alone is a valid reason. So long as there are social, financial and legal benifits to the institution then there is no argument to have. If you feel that love or religion is a requirment that I feel your concept of marraige is outdated.

      • Captain Poofter@lemmy.worldEnglish
        22·
        6 months ago

        No, you are a misunderstanding me. The post I’m replying to was acting as if they had some new wisdom from being polyamorous and their perspective on marriage. But it sounds like they’re just using it as a business move which is something a lot of non polyamorous people do as well, and nothing new. I wasn’t asking what reasons could possibly exist to get married outside of romance or whatever you’re talking about, I was asking SPECIFICALLY THEM why they bothered. But it seems the only actual reason they have is taxes, despite their diatribe.

        • Bahnd Rollard@lemmy.world
          3·
          6 months ago

          Entirely fair question and thanks for expanding, bit personal for online nobodys like us. Sorry if I came off as accusitory.