Edit: “getting closer to marriage” is about the whole journey starting from being completely single
Edit: if this shower thought is too confusing to be useful to you, then here is a quote that gives some of the same guidance, is simpler, less philosophical, but less broad: “Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come” - Mario Quintana
Love, courage, having a personality, etc.
So, I see you’ve opted to give me vague words you think are “good” instead of answering my question… I don’t think I can give you any kind of informed opinion with so little to go on