Yeah I know dating apps bad etc
I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.
The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?
Yeah like I’ll say I’ve done dating on both sides now, and I’m realizing that the competition if you’re masc kinda sucks. Like, I was getting a lot of luck by just… Proposing a date, with a location etc, something casual pretty quickly? I picked up the tab etc all the things that are “expected” from a masc presenting person. And it usually went well.
In my experience most men out there basically want me to just come over and suck them off or something. They put in absolutely no effort and a good portion can’t even control themselves not to be weird as hell and be overly horny with me. A good half of the messages I get are some version of “I want to fuck you now” which, tbh, is fucking weird!! Like I don’t even know you sir!!
gross. honestly I’ve had a couple first dates that ended in sex and at least for straight men it’s just not good bc of power dynamics. My armchair psychoanalysis is that these men either (a) are just legitimately fucked in the head and could still get their rocks off with a partner who is still background worried for her physical safety (b) don’t actually want what they want, and that’s why they’re half-assing the whole dating app thing. So they can say they put themselves out there but they don’t have to be actually vulnerable - self-destructive behavior except they’re doing it by being actively shitty to women