revampeduser@kbin.social to Shower Thoughts@kbin.social · 10 months agoBecoming a teenager is realising that your parents aren't perfect. Becoming an adult is forgiving them for it.message-squaremessage-square13fedilinkarrow-up124arrow-down10file-text
arrow-up124arrow-down1message-squareBecoming a teenager is realising that your parents aren't perfect. Becoming an adult is forgiving them for it.revampeduser@kbin.social to Shower Thoughts@kbin.social · 10 months agomessage-square13fedilinkfile-text
minus-squarePons_Aelius@kbin.sociallinkfedilinkarrow-up7·edit-210 months agoCounterpoint: Becoming an adult is realising you do not have to forgive anyone. Becoming an adult is realising that family is no excuse for abusive behaviour. Forgiving someone who has no intention of altering their behaviour is simply asking for it to be repeated.
minus-squareremotelove@lemmy.calinkfedilinkarrow-up1·10 months agoI agree with both positive and negative points here. Becoming and adult should help you realize if a behavior is forgivable. It should help you be mature enough to forgive, or mature enough to move on. Or both.
minus-squarePons_Aelius@kbin.sociallinkfedilinkarrow-up1·10 months agoYes. It is possible to forgive someone for past behaviour but still refuse to ever have contact with them again.
Counterpoint:
Becoming an adult is realising you do not have to forgive anyone.
Becoming an adult is realising that family is no excuse for abusive behaviour.
Forgiving someone who has no intention of altering their behaviour is simply asking for it to be repeated.
I agree with both positive and negative points here.
Becoming and adult should help you realize if a behavior is forgivable. It should help you be mature enough to forgive, or mature enough to move on. Or both.
Yes. It is possible to forgive someone for past behaviour but still refuse to ever have contact with them again.