I didn’t join it because I was concerned it would do exactly what I saw happening on reddit; go so far i to the everyone’s valid uwu mindset that they wind up making people uncomfortable in their own supposed safe zones and making pride labels into meaningless collectables instead of practical, useful terms.
Things like sexual asexuals and transgender people who see it as a trend to try out. Large majorities jumping in and claiming a label without understanding it at all and then retroactively re-defining the label to fit what they want it to mean, pushing away the original users because they’ve been outnumbered, outvoiced, and bullied into discomfort in their own space.
Beehaw just… gave me those vibes on first glance so I didn’t bother looking deeper for my own sanity.
That’s not it. The instance’s entire schtick is “be nice.” They have rules about doing things like assuming good faith in people you’re talking to until proven otherwise. This makes it a tonally different place. It’s heavily moderated. That’s it. That’s why they’re not gonna fuck with Hexbear or Lemmygrad or whatever else because those places are too tonally aggro for what Beehaw is trying to do and be.
You can disagree, you can have crazy opinions there, but you have to voice them politely and certain flavors of bigotry are not welcome. It’s actually great for certain kinds of conversations. Pushing people away from writing to dunk on each other forces a different sort of interaction that was sadly missing in much of the Internet.
I got so tired on reddit from the communities making labels mean literally whatever someone wants them to mean that I was just over the entire thing. Personally watched the one I was part of shift from a simple, easy to understand concept for a rare group sharing a single trait to a whole umbrella of anyone who feels like making up a microlabel for their particular feeling at that point in time.
It got uncomfortable fast and many of the original group gave up and left from discomfort. That’s the kind of thing I fear finding in lgbt groups now.
Beehaw has the demographics that hexbear pretends to, it’s just a bunch of folks that want to be uninflammatory together. A bit boring for me, but I support their completely unobtrusive goal.
I’m talking about the user I replied to specifically, not any group they’re apart of. Obviously even sh.itjust.works doesn’t subscribe to this guy’s bizarre ideas either.
Did Beehaw go the way I feared it would?
I didn’t join it because I was concerned it would do exactly what I saw happening on reddit; go so far i to the everyone’s valid uwu mindset that they wind up making people uncomfortable in their own supposed safe zones and making pride labels into meaningless collectables instead of practical, useful terms.
Things like sexual asexuals and transgender people who see it as a trend to try out. Large majorities jumping in and claiming a label without understanding it at all and then retroactively re-defining the label to fit what they want it to mean, pushing away the original users because they’ve been outnumbered, outvoiced, and bullied into discomfort in their own space.
Beehaw just… gave me those vibes on first glance so I didn’t bother looking deeper for my own sanity.
That’s not it. The instance’s entire schtick is “be nice.” They have rules about doing things like assuming good faith in people you’re talking to until proven otherwise. This makes it a tonally different place. It’s heavily moderated. That’s it. That’s why they’re not gonna fuck with Hexbear or Lemmygrad or whatever else because those places are too tonally aggro for what Beehaw is trying to do and be.
You can disagree, you can have crazy opinions there, but you have to voice them politely and certain flavors of bigotry are not welcome. It’s actually great for certain kinds of conversations. Pushing people away from writing to dunk on each other forces a different sort of interaction that was sadly missing in much of the Internet.
Interesting. I might take a look then.
I got so tired on reddit from the communities making labels mean literally whatever someone wants them to mean that I was just over the entire thing. Personally watched the one I was part of shift from a simple, easy to understand concept for a rare group sharing a single trait to a whole umbrella of anyone who feels like making up a microlabel for their particular feeling at that point in time.
It got uncomfortable fast and many of the original group gave up and left from discomfort. That’s the kind of thing I fear finding in lgbt groups now.
Beehaw has the demographics that hexbear pretends to, it’s just a bunch of folks that want to be uninflammatory together. A bit boring for me, but I support their completely unobtrusive goal.
This all reads that you’re mad that Beehaw (and reddit too, amazingly) isn’t bigoted enough against certain sexes and sexualities.
No instance has “gone” this way, you just have inane values.
bruh their comment is downvoted 19 times. Do you really think that represents our community?
I’m talking about the user I replied to specifically, not any group they’re apart of. Obviously even sh.itjust.works doesn’t subscribe to this guy’s bizarre ideas either.
ah! Your edit really clears it up, thanks!
i thought you were referring to the whole community, lol
What