I’ve spent some time reflecting yesterday and I realized that. When people want you to be confident they don’t want you to be actually confident, they want you to pretend you are. It is idiotic and makes no sense, but it explains a lot of situations in which I behaved the wrong way.
confidence to me means the opposite of that. it means questioning your asssumptions, approaching things from a different angle, reflect, recalculate, asking for a second opinion. Because I’ll end up with greater confidence that my assertions are more truthful. But apparently doing all that makes people think I’m insecure. Shit!
I disagree with this. There is such a thing as true confidence, and imo it mostly comes from the knowledge that whatever happens you’ll be able to handle the right way. “Fake it til you make it” confidence is called arrogance (and will never turn into actual confidence).