My wife and I had a miscarriage last week. We were 11 weeks along but our baby only grew to 8 weeks.

It’s been devastating.

I’m hoping to get some advice from anyone who’s been through it.

  • what can I do to help my wife? She’s in physical pain which seems to be overriding the emotional pain, but I’m sure it will hit in due time and want to be able to help her the best that I can.

  • our 15 month old obviously doesn’t know what’s going on, but it seems like he’s noticed a change of energy. Its hard to play with him like I normally do. I love him to bits, I just don’t have the energy but I need to make sure he knows he’s loved.

  • we were able to collect the fetus as it passed naturally , we would like to do something to memorialize our unborn child but don’t know what.

  • how can I take care of myself while taking care of my family through these times.

Thanks for any advice.

  • asclepias@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I found myself in a similar place a few years ago. I ended up putting what was left in a very large, heavy planter that I could take with me when we moved.