No idea if this post will resonate at all, but I’ll give it a shot.

I didn’t want to drive, when I was younger. I made it to 20 without a license, using my bike as my main transportation and the bus for longer trips. Because society here in the USA does not accommodate that lifestyle in most places, including where I live, it was deeply limiting. So I got a car, and it unlocked far better options for me in every way - career, social opportunities, time saved. The downsides are obvious, and this community is acutely aware of them, so I won’t belabor the point.

On an individual scale, the scale at which we live our lives, in many corners of the world it is just better, incredibly so, to own a car. Directing hostility at people for driving, even enjoying driving and the associated lifestyle is deeply counterproductive to any kind of progress. The voices speaking against the cause of walkable cities, better public transportation, aren’t what the focus should be.

The focus should be on supporting any possible effort to open new, car-free lifestyle opportunities. Then new voices will emerge, describing the massive savings and freedom of not needing to own and operate an expensive, dangerous piece of machinery just to get groceries or go to work.

That is my two cents, as a person who drives to work, drives for work, and would love to both replace my commute with a better option and deal with less traffic doing my job, which is one of many that requires driving to transport people and materials throughout the day. You can find a lot more allies with a more positive and incremental approach, incubating awareness of a better path, or you can just be an annoying echo chamber.