• sergih@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    why are people here talking about fixing? What ecactly are the things he’s told that need fixing? That he’s nervous to ask women to go on a date? How does this mean he needs fixing? I’m sorry can we stop pretending we need to be perfect before having a relationship?

    The amount of pressure this puts into people is crazy, if you have obvious problems you should ofc fix them but a ton of times having someone by your side and them having you can help tons if you both are sincere and communicating.

    Just stop it please, this dude showed nothing wrong, if anything how he realized he misses being in love with someone, my god.

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      1 year ago

      Because somebody who has been alone for their entire life (at 30) probably isn’t just nervous. Particularly with the crying and leaving with touch, that’s probably a deeper issue even just from the solitude alone. And if he misses love it wasn’t requited, mentioned at the beginning with khv (no hug/hand-holding).

      But yeah, OOP is probably better off than me and I’m projecting. Not saying anything about perfection, just that a random meetup/fix-up is odd and OOP probably needs a little therapy and/or some other form of help, and I’m guessing based on their own words that they know that (easier said than done).

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        1 year ago

        KHV, koi herpesvirus? Not communicable to humans.

        googles again

        Oh. Oh damn, that’s sad. [NOTE:] not [he] is sad, though he might be, it is not my intention to bag on the person for the circumstance.