I’m sorry someone was heavy-handed with you. It’s a bummer they blew an opportunity for a good dialogue. I think in some communities calling someone “stupid” is correctly not allowed, so I’d need a little more context, but calling people “stupid” is also pretty common.

Trying to dig through a couple years of notifications for proof mostly just told me I got a LOT more awards than I realized, and I eventually gave up. But it wasn’t aimed at someone else, or I wouldn’t have had a problem with being reprimanded for it. I make it a point to try to be as civil as I can be, and I was literally being derogatory towards myself.

I am not allowed to be mean…to me…for fear of being ostracized. This decision was stupid enough that I pretty much just consented to say whatever I stood by from now on, since all punishment was being treated like a toy anyway. As a generally anxious person, I consider it a significant character improvement if we’re being honest.

I should thank you as well, and I’m glad this didn’t just devolve into the standard internet interaction, since I was originally only seeing it from my angle and we did definitely start on the wrong foot. I think after spending so much time on kbin, the shock of checking up on my one kebble sub and seeing how deliberately shitty the kind of places I used to frequent really were really stood out to me a LOT. As in, there are subs I used to check frequently that I would block if they came here.

It would take a lot to make me start slinging insults at anyone except myself, but I recognize there’s a fine line between “enjoys debate” and “tends to pick fights” and I’ve been making conscious efforts not to bring the performative reddit snark over here. I still have to deliberately backspace over things now and again and edit things that came out unintentionally harsh the first time, but it’s the person I prefer being.