You need to give up alcohol right away. Lowering the degree, reducing the amount of alcohol consumed or the number of drunks will not benefit. It is important to remove any alcohol from the house and enlist the support of friends. Understand what makes you want to drink. By resorting to alcohol, a person avoids emotions. It is important to establish their type, to understand how to fix the situation without alcohol. Avoid disruptions. The first few days are not easy to drink. However, over time, the need for alcohol will increase. Focus on the desire for sobriety, do not give in to the urge to drink alcohol. Fight the guilt. During intoxication, a person makes a lot of mistakes. . When the intoxication passes, the realization of what he has done comes. As a result, there is a strong sense of guilt. However, it is impossible to correct the past. Self-destruction will not do any good. It is better to focus on the future and try to avoid such situations.
In addition, you can read several useful books “Changing for Good” by James Prochazka and “Staying Sober” by psychologist Terence Gorsky. I also think you should look online for like-minded people, maybe with online meetings. And I think there are various smartphone apps for getting rid of alcoholism.
It is not necessary to maintain long-term relationships with them, you can appear periodically as needed and the need for it, besides, it can be turned into a daily routine. And you can also use existing connections :), for example, ask a friend, partner or family member to help. Maybe they will remind you daily that today is sobriety day, or they will ask you if you are going to drink today, etc.
In addition, about books if you are from Russia, it seems they were translated into Russian, which can help in reading them.