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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • This is totally relatable. I see gender as a whole as pretty nebulous. For myself, it is anything but easy to understand, and terrifyingly difficult to explain to others. What I hear from you sounds gender-fluid, it may or may not be a label that resonates with you.

    It can also be beneficial to see your gender expression as independent from your gender identity. You might still be a woman, but express masc if that’s just the vibe for that day. There shouldn’t be rules. Trans people have suffered enough from gender expectations and pressure. Becoming trans doesn’t remove them, it only shifts them to a new goalpost.

    Personally I love titling myself as Non-binary. It’s an umbrella term, independently it isn’t very descriptive. I don’t resonate with gender-fluid, demi-girl, bigender, etc… I sort of see myself as Non-binary as a n act of protest against gender. It’s a social construct as far as I’m concerned, and putting more thought into it feels like a disservice to myself. I spent enough years searching desperately for a label that hasn’t been created yet. It is exhausting, It is constrictive, I don’t want to do that to myself. I wanna do whatever it is I want. My body, my choice, my life, and it damn better be my right too.

    Hopefully you figure it out. I technically never did, but what I have found is a path to make myself a lot happier. I hope you can find the same at the very least. Sending you virtual hugs 🤗



  • Windows 11 was announced and I got scared. Steam Deck got announced and I saw a clear hopeful future. I had tried out linux a few times but always had a hiccup with my wireless wifi usb dongle, but now I’m wired with Ethernet. I had a free weekend, had a keen interest in delving, got reassured gaming is solid there, watched a few videos and I plunged.

    Personally it took a couple days to get it to a desired state of usability, I have certain niche needs so finding a way to get those while learning the basics of linux took me a while, but aside from that I’ve loved it ever since. I feel in control, the second I have an issue with something I somehow have the freedom to fix it. It’s not perfect, but it always entertains me and I have seen clear innovation in the ~2 years I’ve been here.