Does it ever bother you that this place is full of nitwits and trolls, many of whom make Reddit seem civilized and well-managed by comparison?
Yeah, me neither.

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Cake day: June 5th, 2024

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  • I agree… to a certain degree. I don’t think every sort of gatekeeping makes you an asshole, but this… does apply, unfortunately.

    The specific reason for my take here is that people dismiss things they don’t understand all the damn time, especially if it’s an “invisible” affliction. Implicitly and sometimes without even realizing it has happened.

    It is impossible for people to understand major depression, “significant” ADHD, etc if they haven’t experienced it themselves, and most people just haven’t, and therefore can’t. While that is true, the brain is only too eager to pattern match, which is where you get into “major depression is like when I felt slightly sad once and could just focus on something else” and “ADHD is just like when I didn’t particularly feel like doing that one thing, but then it took almost no additional effort to do it anyway and it made me feel better afterwards”. If you try to map those experiences onto people with, bluntly speaking, any kind of actual problem at all, you will think the problem is much simpler than it realistically is to anyone actually affected - and not even realize it is happening.

    Some people can get closer to actual understanding through (near) connections who both suffer obviously enough and are talkative enough about it - but this is rare and it fucking shows.

    In short, it is intellectual laziness proper, in a form that you very definitely can do something about. As opposed to just saying “you and you with your definitive respective neurodevelopmental differences from the average, you should be able to tackle any consequence arising from it with straight up aplomb”. Which, in case it wasn’t obvious, I’m not a huge fan of.







  • Nah, I’d happily have one - some people are very picky and reluctant to try new things, and aren’t always even aware of it.

    Since you’re asking for feedback, though, my first impression is that the cream cheese is not bad, but may be redundant - the avocado is already covering you on fat and creaminess. The cream cheese I know doesn’t seem like it would add anything. The dish probably needs acidity, but cream cheese is too mild. I don’t recognize your lentil bread, but this should work on anything that can go crispy, since the rest is soft and creamy.

    How about mixing citrus juice into the avo, or just going full guac? I would switch the dairy from cheese to maybe some sour cream/Latin-style crema/yoghurt drizzled over top - or making it a hard cheese like parmesan or pecorino. You can also use citrus zest for both flavor and garnish.




  • It had the vibe of something someone really wanted to “be a meme” and therefore it was flogged extremely aggressively. But, you know, there was beans. God, so fucking hilarious. Especially the millionth one, that was the best of the lot.

    Still unironically better than the jeans shit that followed shortly after, though.

    So this might make me seem surly, my excuse is that I watched “rage comics” get run into the ground over on Reddit, along with that hideous narwhal bullshit, and cringe like that sticks with you.








  • You are completely free to do that. Most people get lonely - everyone doesn’t need a romantic partner per se, but a lot of people do and that’s fine as well. Everyone has to figure out what they want, and what they’re willing to do to make it happen.

    As a stranger on the internet, I’ll just draw attention to “mostly tolerate” as something a therapist (which I am not) would probably want you to elaborate on. That does not sound like a healthy relationship, which explains why you take a dim view of them.