Adora 🏳️‍⚧️

queer/trans nonbinary comrade with brain issues. he/they.

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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I read this as someone being real mad that the game is chaotic, and it’s like, that’s the best part about the game to me? There’s no ACTUAL DM, so the next best thing is what in my mind I’m calling the “death loop” system, just being able to go back and load a different save. At a game table the DM would, within reason, find a way to work with PCs being ridiculous; since it’s not possible to truly replicate that, the game just embeds chaos in the decision trees instead. That’s literally what makes it so fun. Most of the time the game is telegraphing what the real dumbass choices are, but I like how it’s not always immediately obvious. It keeps me on my toes. And sometimes I just save before choosing the stupidest option simply because I want to watch that shit play out.

    I just feel like they’ve fundamentally misunderstood the point here.





  • Hi friend. I’m going to be upfront that I didn’t totally follow your post, but I sense a lot of angst here about having thoughts that you believe might be transphobic. It’s okay to experience transphobic thoughts; it’s not okay to avoid critically examining those thoughts or to act on those thoughts. It seems to me that you’re committed to thinking critically about these thoughts when they come up for you, and so I think you’re doing great.

    Before I realized I was trans, I was transphobic - not hostile, but fearful and basically ghosted someone who trusted me enough to come out to me. I regret that to this day. If I could meet that person again, and he still wanted to interact with me, we’d have a lot to talk about now. But I also understand if he wouldn’t want to interact with me ever again - that makes total sense. He trusted me with his truth and I failed him as a friend.

    No one in this world is free of bias. No one’s thoughts are 100% pure and unobjectionable every second of every day. That’s just reality. What matters is our commitment to doing better and being better. What matters is how we behave - how we treat others in spite of the fucked up conditioning we may have had growing up.

    Keep questioning, keep learning. You’re doing great.



  • I’m stressed as hell. I’m sorry you are too. World is on fire, my job melted down this week, my partner may have an inflammatory disease and her contract will be up next summer unless she gets a new job… No idea if we might be moving in the next year… Just spent $2k on my car and there goes my savings… But, I’m hopeful my job we will be better soon, and I’m lucky I have a job that lets me take time off to help my partner. And if we could just get out of summer, and autumn could come…my favorite season, nice cool weather and bright skies - hoping for that, and hoping you find some light too.









  • She is a very foolish and hateful person, and to me, very hateful people are usually deeply insecure and fearful individuals. This is why (imo) they are so receptive to cult-like thinking and conspiracy theories. She has done real damage to herself and others by letting her fearful emotions dictate her behavior. Now she’s seeing the results of that foolishness, and I think she’s realized, at least somewhat, that she fucked up.

    Sure, too little too late is real easy to say here (and that was my knee-jerk reaction too) but we’ve got to keep the door open for the folks who are actually willing, for however briefly, to break away from the cult of hate mindset and ask for help. Like think about watching a cult documentary where you see folks being preyed on and recruited in because of their financial precarity or lack of sustainable support networks. You want those people to escape. If they do heinous shit while in the cult, you want them to experience consequences, but you also want them to escape.

    This alt-right shit is just like that, in a way. And we need to support people like this who are trying to escape, even if they fucked up royally during their time with the cult. We don’t have to forgive them for their fuck ups, but we do need to leave the door open and show them it doesn’t need to be like this. I hate to say it but we need to educate. And yes I’m over having to educate every fucking day of my life but we’ve got to do it, especially considering states are ripping away any semblance of a balanced, empathetic education right now. A whole generation is being set up to fail and cause harm. We’ve got to fight back.

    I embrace her - not her actions, but her worth as a human being with the capacity and even, it seems, willingness to change. What she did was despicable but she’s apologized; she may be lying but I can’t know that, so I have to accept her remorse at face value and hope that she follows through.

    But the cult is very insidious. If she doesn’t receive support now, she’ll fall back into that mindset, I guarantee it. Now is the time to be gracious and extend her a hand that, based on her actions, maybe she doesn’t deserve. But we need to do it anyway.