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And “I Want to Break Free”, my all time favorite. Close second, “Don’t Stop Me Now”. Oh and “Another One Bites the Dust” for the vibes.

What specs should I be looking for to vet the quality?

Soursweet - kind and wholesome YouTuber with a soothing voice. Surprising combo of entertaining and cozy vibes watching his edited sessions of playing DayZ, a PvP zombie survival shooter.

ProcessX - Japanese YouTube channel that’s shows manufacturing and crafting processes. No talking but English subtitles are available. Lots of satisfying manufacturing noises with soft classical music in the background.

Crackpot idea - if you’re both already paying for therapy individually and had limited success with couples therapy (assuming the couples therapist was not one of your therapists), maybe your therapists be open to having a session with the four of you?

You already have rapport with them and they know your individual histories so could save a lot of time setting the stage that way. Would be interesting seeing what the therapists would say to each other. Or if meeting isn’t possible, maybe could ask your therapists if they’d contact each other to help gain insight?

Sorry you’re going through this. She sounds like she’s being callous.

If you do decide there’s a shred of hope and desire to saving this relationship and all you can change is yourself, then I can offer what has helped my partner and I. Building a habit of affection without the expectation of sex. As in, not lingering too long waiting for the other to “signal the go ahead” for sex. Just a quick but meaningful hug or kiss when nearby, then going back to minding our own business. Also keeping on top of the chores and decisions. Partial contributor to our dead bedroom was because there is nothing more unsexy than thinking of all the things that still need doing. If there’s been a dynamic that she feels like she’s had to run the household (making sure chores are done, meal planning, groceries are bought and put away, social things organized, birthdays are remembered, etc) then she might feel like your mother. And obviously women are biologically wired not to be attracted to their children.

Because women entered the workforce and can be both providers and caregivers, but in general men don’t want to embrace an identity as caregiver so point the blame at women and/or the world.

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Think of it like a ratio. It devalues the savings of every day people more significantly than it devalues the massive piles rich people have. Rich people have this insane buffer and always have the means to play the rigged system to their favour and win.