It could be because most of the posts here focus on our vulnerabilities rather than external norms. We’re fairly self depreciating, but we also celebrate things we were told to hate about ourselves like not being dominant or in control, being horny and dumb, or showing love to each other in openly queer ways.

Spaces that are more male dominated or less openly queer also self depreciate, but mostly to reinforce ideas of how people should be. Judgement is passed based on popular social norms that don’t inherently matter. That isn’t to say we’re perfect over here, but we don’t hold that normality as sacred, constantly suspicious of shit that binds us for seemingly no reason.

I don’t know what in particular bothers you about relating to us, but people can relate to us without being a silly Sapphic transfem nerd with mental health issues. You only need to be a transfem or queer if feel better that way. Everyone is welcome as long as they don’t hurt the vulnerable without consent.