I have also recently suspected neurodiversity plays into this a lot. I definitely relate to the frustration of what bs society wants us to be, I also used to give a lot of pushback to this and got the label of difficult as a result, haha.
Honestly now that you say it I think this applies to me as well, because it isn’t just gender related social expectations that I tend to eschew. And I definitely had a way harder time learning those expectations growing up before I was able to sort of ignore them. Mostly stuff like what goals and ambitions average people have, and what life path everyone is supposed to follow. And on that count I never really got more than an eyebrow raise in response, and no one ever considered me difficult (as far as I know at least).
I really enjoy knowing that at least a couple people here have had this same sort of experience growing up and figuring out themselves, because IRL I never meet anyone who does. I love this site and my Hexbear comrades
It kind of feels like one of the qualities or a neurodiverse life might be non-conformity and questioning norms / seeing the constructs clear as day. Then again there are people on the spectrum who are very much into rules and norms, but maybe especially for adhd this resonates. I also suspect the being into norms might be masking/self-protection in an oppressive reality. I feel I have had quite a bit of privilege in being able to openly “be difficult” so much.
I used to and would get very annoyed by other bs rules that were just thrown around as well, things like who are and are not ok to play with as a kid. Or what are girls toys and what are boys. Or how people would shun folks from different walks of life just because “that’s what you do”. I used to typically choose to go againts the grain on such things very much on purpose and in my mind to reveal the unseriousness of them. Norms about sex, religion, the “normal” path in life, none sit well with me and never did. It has a very strong human first and all the normative defitions second basis. This extends to politics and oppression too. I was always puzzled by the way people just take it, whatever is done to them. Like the oppression isn’t even noticed and all the things are just some forces of nature that just happen to you when they very much are not. I think all of these are a part of the same in some way.
Right on, I fully agree. As I’ve grown up too I’ve been able to look back and kind of reassess the way I grew up and try to recontextualize it now that I have a wider variety of life experiences.
This extends to politics and oppression too. I was always puzzled by the way people just take it, whatever is done to them. Like the oppression isn’t even noticed and all the things are just some forces of nature that just happen to you when they very much are not. I think all of these are a part of the same in some way.
This especially, I always was blown away by. I think it really kind of led me to be predetermined to be some kind of leftist. Like I was born and raised to reach these conclusions but I didn’t know what words to use to describe them until I discovered that politics left of the democratic party existed lol.
Honestly now that you say it I think this applies to me as well, because it isn’t just gender related social expectations that I tend to eschew. And I definitely had a way harder time learning those expectations growing up before I was able to sort of ignore them. Mostly stuff like what goals and ambitions average people have, and what life path everyone is supposed to follow. And on that count I never really got more than an eyebrow raise in response, and no one ever considered me difficult (as far as I know at least).
I really enjoy knowing that at least a couple people here have had this same sort of experience growing up and figuring out themselves, because IRL I never meet anyone who does. I love this site and my Hexbear comrades
Right? And it’s in all the expectations.
It kind of feels like one of the qualities or a neurodiverse life might be non-conformity and questioning norms / seeing the constructs clear as day. Then again there are people on the spectrum who are very much into rules and norms, but maybe especially for adhd this resonates. I also suspect the being into norms might be masking/self-protection in an oppressive reality. I feel I have had quite a bit of privilege in being able to openly “be difficult” so much.
I used to and would get very annoyed by other bs rules that were just thrown around as well, things like who are and are not ok to play with as a kid. Or what are girls toys and what are boys. Or how people would shun folks from different walks of life just because “that’s what you do”. I used to typically choose to go againts the grain on such things very much on purpose and in my mind to reveal the unseriousness of them. Norms about sex, religion, the “normal” path in life, none sit well with me and never did. It has a very strong human first and all the normative defitions second basis. This extends to politics and oppression too. I was always puzzled by the way people just take it, whatever is done to them. Like the oppression isn’t even noticed and all the things are just some forces of nature that just happen to you when they very much are not. I think all of these are a part of the same in some way.
Right on, I fully agree. As I’ve grown up too I’ve been able to look back and kind of reassess the way I grew up and try to recontextualize it now that I have a wider variety of life experiences.
This especially, I always was blown away by. I think it really kind of led me to be predetermined to be some kind of leftist. Like I was born and raised to reach these conclusions but I didn’t know what words to use to describe them until I discovered that politics left of the democratic party existed lol.