My gf(30) revealed she has gone through my phone behind my back and during an argument brought up a message to a random woman I matched with on tinder and never met. The thing is this was a good 4-5 MONTHS before I even knew she existed. I have been very open with my phone and given her the password but I still feel betrayed. Are my feeling justified?
I feel like going through each other’s phones is a line that, if I need to cross, then the relationship is dead. I no longer trust my partner. Even if I go through his phone and he’s not cheating I just admitted the trust is gone anyway. It doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship to me.
And yes I acknowledge some relationships have an open phone policy like this, but that’s not applicable in a situation where you are creeping through someone’s phone without consent.
Sharing phone passwords is for specific use cases, I’d argue. Calling someone, looking smth up online, maybe downloading for smth. Crawling through personal chats is a whole different level and requires consent of at least two parties (chats are almost always with other people).
Yeah, my partner and I share passwords but it’s for like, if one of us is incapacitated and you need to get something out of my phone. I would never just open up her messages and go digging and I expect the same from her.