I’m just middle aged and lost all energy for unproductive discussions. The second another poster posts something genuinely hostile, like “touch grass” kinda shit, I’m just done talking. Also if we’re six comments in and the other guy won’t even admit to being wrong to the thing he said on comment one, despite me doing twenty minutes of research to prove conclusively that he’s wrong, I don’t want to waste another second of my life on him.
I gotta have 10% of the “disengage” comments on this site.
Don’t waste your life energy on random internet users.
Also consider that like 90% of the internet is bots at this point, some (let’s be real, most) of which are deliberately designed to manipulate you or make you angry.
I suspect that even on lemmy, the more populous instances are filled with bots. Not the more tightly moderated ones, like this one tho.