Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.

What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand

  • keepcarrot [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    One of the examples I remember is from r4r or one of the nerd dating spheres where someone wanted a partner who was smart, but not as smart as them. Obviously, they wanted her to smart enough to impress their friends (the ones who they constantly jockey for clout about intelligence with), but didn’t really want to respect her or feel intellectually threatened. Which also says a lot about what they think of their friends, let alone their prospective partner they were looking for.

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      1 year ago

      Yet again, something that can quickly and easily fixed by breaking down the umbrella concept of “smart” into categories, where you can have distinction in one or a few or even several, and still easily have space for someone else close to you to have their own combination/niche.

      The same goes with power/authority. Break it down into its component parts, and all of a sudden stratification is drastically minimized.