I was at a mates kids birthday party over the weekend. Saw some old friends in a very different light. Walked away feeling a bit… i dunno, confused? I dont think they even are my mates any more. They were chatting away complaining and I’m sitting there thinking, 1 I cant relate, and 2, tbh I dont care! Like I wish I did, but I dont know you any more. You havnt asked how I’m doing, and now its all just… weird…
these are people I saw almost every weekend in my 20s. and now its… odd.
I’ve been in those situations before - people you used to hang with and now you’ve drifted so far apart that they’re… no longer friends but also not strangers? And yea, confused is definitely the vibe. A melancholic confusion - there’s something that’s lost, through no one’s real fault, but it’s nevertheless gone. What once was is no more.
The good news: sometimes folks who were on the outer edge of your acquaintances network for many years change over time and click into the close friends zone, and that’s awesome when it happens.
I was at a mates kids birthday party over the weekend. Saw some old friends in a very different light. Walked away feeling a bit… i dunno, confused? I dont think they even are my mates any more. They were chatting away complaining and I’m sitting there thinking, 1 I cant relate, and 2, tbh I dont care! Like I wish I did, but I dont know you any more. You havnt asked how I’m doing, and now its all just… weird…
these are people I saw almost every weekend in my 20s. and now its… odd.
I’ve been in those situations before - people you used to hang with and now you’ve drifted so far apart that they’re… no longer friends but also not strangers? And yea, confused is definitely the vibe. A melancholic confusion - there’s something that’s lost, through no one’s real fault, but it’s nevertheless gone. What once was is no more.
@jaybb3rw0cky @TinyBreak
This does happen and it’s sad/confusing.
The good news: sometimes folks who were on the outer edge of your acquaintances network for many years change over time and click into the close friends zone, and that’s awesome when it happens.
the thing that stuck me was I wasn’t really sad. What struck me was there was this atmospheric shift and I was the only one who felt it.