Too many straight people use this as the third sentence in a conversation with someone they just met though. Like, a formative moment in my psychological development is not something I’m accustomed to discussing with random strangers. It’s different when it comes up in conversations with friends.

Add to that the weight of the oppressive sociocultural context that required me to have a developmental moment of revelation in the first place, instead of just, you know, being able to be whatever I am without having to wade though a pile of fear, guilt, and shame to get there. Yeah… it shouldn’t be a casual question.