Like it’s only so long until a user there posts a dumbass “Kick Tankies out of Lemmy” meme to try and start shit to get us defedded and hexbears take the bait immediately and pile on to tell them what a dumbass they are.

Like as dumb as the “death to NATO” being compared to “death to the people of NATO” stuff was, blahaj and hexbear are the largest queer instances and I quite like taking part in it and their trans communities, idk it’s kinda nice to interact with people who don’t have the same kind of hexbear brainrot where I see the words “pumpkin spice”, “Maoist cult”, “Soyfacing PMC radlib” or “rock stacking” and immediately start to go :sus: mentally, it feels refreshing to be able to talk to an incredibly queer positive community that doesn’t have the same kind of internet poisoning as all of us. And it seems kind of assholy that some of the users here just don’t give a shit and want to post and dunk until we get defedded by every instance, this isn’t like lemmy.ca where they were all dicks that none of us liked anyway and were complaining about us doing hate speech against fucking landlords or lemm.ee where almost every time time a user from there pops their head into our threads here they say something racist or transphobic. iirc blahaj.zone was actually the second most requested instance to federate with in the pre federation discussions due to how good of a queer space it was.

Like their first defed thread was a complete embarrassment because there were a load of users there that actually had positive opinions towards us and then they saw the shitshow happening once from the post reaching active and changed to be way against us which tbh, fair enough.

Edit:
statements from the head mod Ada:

  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I’ve been on Lemmy for all of two months and don’t understand all of the defederation drama. I just want to be able to view all of the communities and I’ll ignore or block content I don’t want to see. Simple as that.

    I rather like this community and it would be annoying to have to make a new account just to view it.

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      Mood, I’m kind of considering making a blahaj account too because I want to continue to be able to post in your guy’s comms

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    I really struggle to respect someone who repeatedly said “People of NATO” and never recanted, but I do need to respect her handling of this.

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      Gonna have to ask you to, its better for the trans community to keep shit together so we can spread survival tips to each other, even if 196 makes the instance insufferable and oftentimes transphobic

      Im hoping theyll do something about how problematic 196 is at some point, but I doubt it

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    I’m very close to just starting to spam blahaj.zone with Leslie Feinberg. If you think that the liberal regime will give us any rights without massive struggle, you don’t know our fucking history.

    Liberals have given trans people nothing, we have had to claw everything we have from their cold dead grasp.

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    After that “people of NATO” bullshit, I don’t see the administrative team (the admins and mods collectively) of blahaj operating in good faith. My comment about the bad faith that other instances engage in applies as much to blahaj as the other instances like lemmy.ca. If they truly believe in the vision and strategic goals of the North Atlantic Treaty Organization, they can just say so without hiding behind some ridiculous excuse. I’m sure Stoltenberg and various other generals in command of a giant military are quaking in their boots about some obscure website wishing for their collective deaths.

    Most of the users seem to be cool enough, but the administrative team is a major obstacle, and frankly, I do not like it and do not believe it is fair that we have to change our behavior while they don’t have to do shit. How is this fair? We have a stickied “Amendments to the Code of Conduct regarding the Fediverse” issued by an admin, so what have they done in return? Apparently, our admins went out of their way to delete a post for their sake, so when are their admins going to delete the “fuck tankies” banner on their largest and most active comm? And this will not be the end of it, mark my words. They’ll demand more and more, ever slowly chipping away at what makes Hexbear Hexbear. If they want to demonstrate that they’re operating in good faith, they need to compromise as well.

    But I’m already wasting my time. In the second of meta discussion on blahaj about Hexbear (which I will not link because that would be bRigAdInG), everyone is giving the same tired excuses (tankies, emote spam, Ukraine) about why they want to defed from us. It’s going to happen one way or another. I just wish the admins here didn’t have to humiliate themselves in the process.

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      Based on what their admin Ada has actually said she’s willing to put up with us a bit because she really does want to help builds a sense of trans solidarity between the two major trans instances so I feel like that’s mischaracterising her a bit. If she just wanted to find an excuse to defed us she would have done it over the shitshow in the previous defed thread.

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        I hadn’t seen this prior to posting in this thread and it does soften my view a lot. Supporting trans people across the lemmyverse is more important than yelling at obnoxious libs.

        Maybe we can get Hexbears to agree to some kind of cease-fire thing and agree not to engage with politics on Blahaj? Idk how that would work, given the consistent failure of Liberals to support and protect trans people. That seems like it would be an inevitable point of conflict.

        Might I suggest adding these to the main post so more people see them? This is important context that I didn’t have when I first posted and it might change other people’s views.

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          I don’t believe it for a second. We were defederated for no real reason. They allow explicit anti-communism. These are just words. They’ll defederate you the first chance they get. Then they’ll release a statement like “well, we tried, but those tankies were just too evil”.

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            as sad as it makes me bc i really want more trans-positive spaces to lurk, i think you’re probably 100% correct here

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              Think about it. She’s lamenting all the hostility they get from most liberal instances, but clearly holds hexbear in contempt, and she defederated from us. Why would she prefer their company over us? We ARE the other big queer instances that she so hopes to find. It’s a meme that trans girls are all communists, and I’m sure she knows it. This seems to me that she has a very active interest in stopping this. Why else would Nazis be less problematic than us?

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              I kinda wish we had a more general purpose trans comm on here. transenbyliberation is ok and all but id like just a word-for-word copy of trans circlejerk and traaa so we can spam reddit with those to get trans people on a more supportive platform