It’s not that I don’t like them, it’s that I literally do not know what to do. Like why do some people get hugs without initiating and just assume I don’t like hugs

Is this relatable whatsoever

  • Angel [any]@hexbear.net
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    2 months ago

    The woman in her 40’s who asked for my consent to give me a hug and a kiss on the cheek was such an amazing person to me 🥺👉👈

    She saw a lot of good in me, even though she was aware that I struggled to see such good in myself.

  • queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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    2 months ago

    Oh me me!

    My social anxiety makes me terrified that I am a nuisance to other people, so I keep to myself so I don’t annoy anyone and ruin their day.

    🫠

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      2 months ago

      Felt

      I’m starting to think that social anxiety for me is a feature and not a bug (when so many try to pretend it’s the latter) just from how I grew up and learned to view the world

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    2 months ago

    Yeah I actually enjoy hugs but I’m just awkward about it, like idk when it’s appropriate, and I’m too nervous to initiate it, etc etc.

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    2 months ago

    My issue is that I don’t like being touched except for a few exceptions. So when there is a round of hugs happening and I hold back, I get the weird feeling that I just denied someone.

    I’m sorry if my ND ever conflicts with your ND in a situation like this. I don’t hate you, I just hate the normative nature of touching each other in situations where words are enough.